Being a Girl Can be Rough

So this is not a new observation, but I was thinking tonight that being a girl can be rough. Not the physical stuff (monthly visits, child birth etc.) but the craziness that happens in our heads. The over analysis of every situation, the drama many women create with one another over nothing, and the constant desire for clear communication (often not concise).

Now in general I try to steer clear of the drama and think I do a damn fine job of that, BUT it's the other two that kill me, especially when it comes to boys... I'm 23 I guess I should be saying "men". Now I was out with my ladies this weekend enjoying some dancing and some gal pal time when before the fun even began many of us had to set the texting ground rules; who we were and were not allowed to initiate a text with, if said textie texts us can we respond, if we respond what are we forbidden to say. Now I was not planning on drinking BUT I still needed to set these ground rules because girls do not just send the "drunk texts" when they are drunk but also when we get all caught up in our head and think it's a good idea to send a text letting them know we are thinking about them or pretending to send a text to someone else but "accidentally" sending it to them so they will respond. 

If a boy... excuse me... a MAN sends me a text out of the blue, immediately the analysis begins "what does he mean, what does he want, that little smiley at the end does that mean he is into it?" Us girls are constantly analyzing the relationship and communication with the bo... er men in our lives. Which leads to the next point, we want clear communication.

We want the man to say "hey I enjoyed a,b, and c but am not planning on embarking in the D that will lead to the R (d=dating r= relationship)." Yet if a man ever said that too us he would be considered a huge scumbag jerk, and we would ask over an over again how he could ever be so insensitive. 

Ladies, what the hell do we want? I will tell you what I want, to have the confidence to be completely straight forward and for the man to be completely straight forward without it hurting my feelings or confidence. Me saying "I am out with the girls and am thinking about you." and him feeling free to respond with "Don't think about me". 

Now I know this will never happen which is why being a girl can be rough. Now if you will excuse me I have a current situation to over analyze and man's number to change the contact info too "DO NOT TEXT OR CALL".

-Lisi-

PS soooooooooo true